Letters to Mom, March 28, 2021
Dear Mom, This is your memory letter from your daughter Kathy, in Tennessee. Barbara told me that she was able to come inside and see you, hug you, and hold your hand. I am very jealous and miss you so much. She has graciously offered us her guest room to come see you. We are thinking of making the trip sometime after Easter.
Here is my Memory. "I am a people pleaser. I'm sure it started in childhood with the desire to please you and Dad. I also wanted to please Bobbie so she would play with me. Probably the best way to explain this principle is the story of "Why I touched a Bumblebee!" I touched a bumblebee one day because we were outside playing with some neighbor kids and Bobbie told everyone that she was brave.
Not wanting to be left out of the conversation, I announced to her and to our friends that I was brave too. Bobbie immediately told me again that I was not brave. I countered with, "Yes, I am!" She continued to taunt me by saying, "I bet you wouldn't touch a bumblebee."
I might not have been so quick to declare my bravery if I had seen the bumblebee on a nearby flower (as my older sibling had also told me that when you are stung by a bumblebee you have 10 seconds to remove the stinger or you die!) So not to disappoint my sister I bravely went where no man has gone before and touched the bee. Surprise! It stung me! My sister, (always my cheerleader in acts of stupidity) began to declare to the neighborhood kids that I was the bravest of the brave. As she chronicled my deed of bravery I slowly began to count. (One, one thousand, two, one thousand, three, one thousand) . I think I was up to eight of nine with death on the horizon before she detected my panic dance of death and pulled out the stinger.
You would have thought that I learned a valuable lesson that day...(maybe I have, looking back over the event now.) I am not so trusting as I once was. I have found that I don't have the time or the desire to be anyone other than me. I have decided that life is too short for anything other than comfortable shoes. One size fits all is a myth. Look, before you leap is great advice. I am not brave and a bumblebee will sting you if you touch it. As for my big sister, I still want her approval and attention. Lord help me if she dares me to display my stupidity in some other way. You know I will....right after her!
I hope you enjoyed this story mom. I am sure you never knew about this encounter other than putting baking soda on my bee sting. Bobbie and I had stories that we used against each other to keep from getting into trouble. She would say, " if you tell mom, I will tell her about the time you..." Point, counterpoint, we maintained a fine balance of power.
One thing that all three of your girls agree on is our love and prayer for you. We pray for you every single day and can't wait to see your again and hug you, and hold your hand. Love you, Mom. Your daughter Kathy
